Dating after an abusive relationship
Come up with several believable reasons you can use to leave the house (both during the day and at night) if you sense trouble brewing. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.
Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen).
One moment, you may desperately want to get away, and the next, you may want to hang on to the relationship.
While change is not impossible, it isn’t quick or easy.
But you still need to make your decision based on who he is now, not the man you hope he will become.
If you’re worried about what will happen if you leave...
They may even mean what they say in the moment, but their true goal is to stay in control and keep you from leaving.
Most of the time, they quickly return to their abusive behavior once they’ve been forgiven and they’re no longer worried that you’ll leave.
Many abusers who go through counseling continue to be violent, abusive, and controlling.