Cultural dating diferences by country
Reply Hi Judith, reading your post made me slightly nervous That’s because I’ve been with my fiance for over 5 years & your story made me wonder if my relationship will end the same way?
Right now I’m in her homeland where I’ve been living for over 5 years. When you ask God for someone to Love as I did I was thinking of a beautiful person within my race but God gave me what I asked for and what he thought so needed and the same goes for you all. Of your worrying about how someone views your spouse then don’t get married . Thank you for bringing God into this picture of people’s lives.
Aside from getting used to living with one another, we had overarching cultural differences to deal with which could really wear us down and test our marriage. Even though my husband feels very comfortable here in the States, he still doesn’t feel 100 percent at home.
I think apart from all these enlisted problems, it can be really rewarding and interesting – but everyone needs to be veeeery aware of these difficulties before entering.
There will never be a time when we are close to his family as well as mine. Things just feel a little less warm and comforting when our holiday traditions disappear. However, there are times when our cultural differences rub one another the wrong way. My husband is completely fluent in English yet he can still feel out of place when he hangs out with a bunch of Americans using slang and subtle cultural references. My husband had to listen to my complaints (for a long time) about how different life was in Germany.
The cultural idiosyncrasies of my husband that I love the most can also cause me the most frustration when I’m not at my best (and mine can do the same to him! I can’t even imagine what it is like for couples who don’t speak each other’s languages! Then I had to listen to the same from him when we moved to the States.
We’ll hope to work out college and retirement as best we can. At least one set of grandparents is always far away. Or will we let our children decide based on where they are living?
Our children will never be able to have both sets of grandparents living nearby. Skype is a wonderful thing but it still doesn’t replace spending time with real, live grandparents, aunts and uncles. And here is one more general question: Where will we be buried when we die? Many of us know the answer already while others have no idea.
Despite this list of reasons why international marriage can be tough at times, I would never, ever exchange it for anything else.